That looks heavy. Let Me Help.
This sounds like a nice statement and the intentions behind it are good. You see someone struggling, and you want to help alleviate the struggle, so you offer to help. When lifting something heavy, often if helps to share the weight of it so that not all of it is on one person. Plus, it’s the nice thing to do. We all need help sometimes.
We also tend to do this lifting emotionally in relationships too. When we’re done lifting something physical, we put it down. Shared and personal emotional burdens tend to have a different quality; they to stick around and linger.
We listen to our friend’s burden, and find that you’re hugging and both crying at the end of it, and things feel dispersed and released. There’s SPACE, room to breathe and you both feel better than you did before.
We have a particularly vibrant day and come home radiating with joy to find out your spouse had a tough day. We might knock our frequency down just a bit because, it might seem rude to be so radiantly happy when another is suffering.
We might even decide to feel responsible for the other person’s emotions, particularly if we’ve been subject to any kind of abuse, including verbal and emotional abuse or have co-defendant relationships, where we can often be blamed by others for their emotional responses, reactions, and interpretations.
Emotional and verbal abuse have devasting effects on our nervous system, our social nervous system, and our mental and emotional well-being, which can cause repercussions to our physical bodies. That old saying ‘sticks and stones won’t break my bones but words will never hurt me” is very inaccurate. Words have frequencies. Frequencies are absorbed by water and our human systems are made up of a good portion of water. We absorb unseen frequencies all of the time. Even silent intentions from others can affect us.
“Human beings are also vibrating, and each individual vibrates at a unique frequency. Each one of us has the sensory skills necessary to feel the vibrations of others.”.
― Masaru Emoto, The Hidden Messages in Water
When interpersonal and energetic boundaries are weak we can sometimes take on other’s emotions into our own systems and not even realize it. I remember coming home after a terrific day and as I went to make dinner, I became aware that I was very angry. I knew in my heart that this emotion wasn’t mine. I realized I had a client earlier that day who was very angry at their spouse and in the energetic exchange of listening to the client vent, their energy leaked into my energy a bit. The recognition of this, allowed me to move the anger energy out of my personal space.
It’s what we do with strong emotions that matters. When I was a child, I created imaginary worlds with words as an outlet, writing endless stories and creating dynamic characters. Art is great outlet to shift your mind when emotions are overwhelming, as is physical movement or exercise. I haven’t personally always given my emotions an outlet, and I think that’s true for most of us. We’re not always taught what to do with difficult emotions other than refrain from showing them to others. Unprocessed emotions can build up in our body, manifesting as a symptom via physical or emotional pain, hormonal imbalance, spiritual disconnection to name a few.
If emotional imprints from past or present relationships are still affecting you, you may want to schedule a consultation with me or consider booking a session.
With Love,
Karen
